self-esteem, social media

Self-Esteem and Social Media

3 Things that Hurt Your Self-Esteem

#1: Spending Too Much Time on Social Media

Nowadays, it’s almost impossible to avoid social media. It’s where you see updates from friends and family, get invited to birthdays, work events, and other social gatherings. Oftentimes we even learn about the major events going on in the world from new articles on social media. If we’re being honest, sometimes it can get overwhelming. Notifications pinging on your phone, signing on to see that you have 10 notifications to look through, emails that tell you that you have a new comment or message and on and on. It’s so easy to fall down the rabbit hole and get lost on social media for hours. What does this do to our self-esteem?

Social media can be a wonderful tool to keep in touch with new and old friends as well as family near and far. However, it can also cause major problems in your life and how you view yourself. Below, I’ll talk about a few issues that can stem from too much time on social media and how to deal with them.

3 Ways Social Media Can Hurt Your Self-Esteem:

  1. Time management issues – You may not have planned to be on social media for that long, but next thing you know, you’re running late or have lost an hour of time in your day. This can cause increased (and unnecessary) stress in your day. 
  2. Jealousy  – Social media is infamous for being the place where you can be anyone you want to be. People post the best part of their day, week, or month, and in our heads, we may think this is the norm for that person. Perfect meals every day. Wow! That person has their stuff together. Beautiful outfits and hair done. Wow! She is so much more organized than I am. No, not true. In actuality, this is just a snapshot of a moment in this person’s life where things were going pretty good. We all have the good moments, and we all have daily struggles. The issue is that seeing a picture can sometimes trigger us to feel down about ourselves. Not only that, but even news stories that pop up on our feed can be triggers. It could be just the horrific details or it could trigger something for you from your past. Either way, it can leave you feeling sad, frustrated, angry, or a big ball of mixed emotions. 
  3. You’re missing out – The more time you spend on social media watching others live their lives, the less time and energy you are putting into making your life the way you want it to be. Sometimes it’s easier to just mindlessly scroll through social media. Believe me, I get it, and I’m guilty too. It takes a lot of effort to focus on creating the life you desire BUT what have you got to lose?

Now that we’ve talked about some of the pitfalls to social media, let’s look at what you can do to cope. These tips are things you can start doing today on your journey to greater self-esteem.

3 Helpful Tips to Maintaining Your Self-Esteem:

  1. Watch your time spent on social media. You are in control. Pick a time limit and then set a timer on your phone so that you’re reminded to log off. There are also really cool apps that not only track your time spent on various sites but also help you to control how much time you spend on a given site. 
  2. Consider taking a social media break. Vow to stay off of social media for a few days or a week. Then see how you feel.
  3. Unfollow, unsubscribe, unfriend anyone who either posts negative things on social media or who triggers negative feelings for you more often than not. I mean do you really need to see someone’s perfectly plated dinner or brand new pair of shoes? Facebook even has that great feature where you don’t have to “unfriend” the person but can stop seeing their feed. Very handy. It is crucial that you do what you can to block negativity from your life as part of building and protecting your self-esteem.
  4. Now, go and subscribe, follow, and friend people who inspire and encourage you, whether you know them personally or not. Those are the people you want to have on your feed. 

Social media, for most of us, has become part of our lives. More and more aspects of even our careers from a multitude of industries involve social media. That may not be able to be helped during the work day, but what you do on your time is within your control. While there is so much good on social media, it’s important to be aware of what may affect you negatively. Once you realize this, you can take steps to limit them. Try to focus on your journey. Set your own goals, and don’t allow the negative to bring you down. You are fierce!

If you struggle with knowing who you are and loving yourself, or you feel your self-esteem could use some help, email me or call me to set up your first session. [email protected]/904-204-9308.

Maria Inoa

Maria Inoa

Maria Inoa is a licensed clinical social worker and the owner of Full Potential Counseling. With over 12 years of experience, she specializes in working with women on building healthier relationships with themselves and others. She strongly believes that women are warriors and that every woman has worth, significance, and purpose. Maria provides in-person sessions at her office in the Ortega area as well as online sessions for the busy woman. For a free phone/online consultation or to schedule a session with Maria, call 904-204-9308 or email her at [email protected]