There’s No Need to Explain

Part of setting boundaries like a boss is pushing past that feeling that you need to explain your decisions to others.

The truth is that you do not owe an explanation to anyone, but you especially don’t own them a long and drawn out explanation.

I know that you may struggle with the feeling that you need to explain your decisions. This typically comes from a need to people please. You may identify as being someone who tends to give to others first and put yourself last.

When people explain why they made the decisions they did, they are often attempting to avoid the other person being “upset” with them in any way.

People pleasers tend to be very uncomfortable with being disliked, and therefore, have poor boundaries.

Setting boundaries is so important, but then you have to hold firm to those boundaries. This means not allowing other’s opinions to sway you and trusting that you know what is best for yourself.

Here’s the thing to remember when it comes to setting healthy boundaries for yourself…not everyone is going to like them.

Some of those people that don’t like them are probably the reason you set the boundaries to begin. Often, it’s the toxic people in our life that dislike our boundaries.

It can be because your healthy boundaries shine a light onto their unhealthy parts.

It may make them feel discomfort as they see you making good choices for yourself and your life while they may feel stuck in their own life.

I have found that if the person truly has your best interest at heart, they will respect your boundaries - - - always.

Remember your boundaries aren’t for them. They are for YOU.